Couple Communication Topics: Getting to the Heart of…Romance

Romance is the act of choosing your beloved - again and again and again.

Through your words, actions, and feelings, you tell your partner, “You are worthy. You matter. I reaffirm my commitment to you.” Within the safe space of an ever-expanding loving relationship, romance opens our heart to overcome obstacles and create new possibilities. 

But when love is challenged, romance is at-risk. How do we reaffirm our choice to love when our partner lets us down?  How do we love when our partner’s less-than-lovable parts are revealed? How do we maintain a safe relationship space when our mutual wounds give rise to feelings of violation and isolation? 

Outdated romantic myths suggest that love is gone when our partner is less-than-lovable - and our partner is to blame. You’re not good enough. You didn’t love good enough.

Douglas & I know that love is never gone. Confronted with what is less-than-lovable, the resilient love the couple has cultivated through their ongoing romantic acts can offer an evolutionary opportunity to heal and grow. Despite challenges, both partners can find ways to communicate, again and again, “You are good enough and worthy of love.” Couples who practice everyday romance can harness the power of that love when it is most needed.

The Couple Communication Topic of Romance invites you to find new ways to let your partner know you’ve chosen them, again, today. What positive messages can you share? What supportive actions can you offer? What loving feelings can you send in their direction? Think of the romantic communication you weave through your daily routine as mini-dates - a kind of romantic foreplay.